3 Ways to Encourage a Young Musician

Welcome! to a place that talks about the real life of Country Music artists! Today I want to talk about encouraging young musicians who can become our future stars.


 3 ways to encourage the dream

  • acknowledge the value of a dream
  • enable as many opportunities as you can for your young person to be exposed to the world of their dream
  • Leave room for growth and change

First, a short Eli story. Eli fell in love with Country Music before he entered kindergarten. He was also into trucks, construction, bull-riding at rodeos and shopping for boots at the  B&B Western clothing store. Everything stayed with him into adulthood- except bull-riding. Music took the center stage!

Eli at 2 yrs. old on his bull dozer.

  1. Acknowledge the dream Kids are interested in so many areas at once. It’s part of learning about the world. But certain interests pop up and  bring a sparkle to their eyes. That sparkle is very important. It’s a clue to a heart’s desire. Your child hungers to learn more.
  • Encourage!  Enjoy your child talking about his/her interest. Let him bring it up and share his thoughts freely. At this point they don’t need to know if it’s practical, has benefits, a good retirement plan, or how big the student loan will be. Let the dream be fun!
  •  Dreams have value. The ability to envision something great comes from simple encouragements. It’s where all the good things we enjoy start.
  • Treat it sincerely but lightly. Life is lots of things! Lots of interests will come and go- but the heart ones will stay.  Eli didn’t become a bull rider- but he loves songs about them and the country life. He saw the tough challenge bull riders face and chose to become a Marine and challenge himself to face challenges too.

(Eli-age 5 at rodeo seeing a dream)

Enable opportunities to explore the dream-

  • Go to places where your child can see the dream he has in action. We took Eli to Country Music concerts to see his favorite stars, when we could and in appropriate venues. We’re blessed to have some fairs and an amphitheater near by that are family friendly concert venues.
  • Get age appropriate classes for him. There are classes for nearly every interest!
  • Get him a quality instrument. It has to be good enough to play well at his level- Eli has constantly traded up guitars as he’s mastered his skills. But he’s never giving away that first guitar from his grandparents!


Leave room for change!

  • Some kids like to load up activities and interests, like the carnival plate spinners. They want to try everything all at once! It’s ok! Activities that don’t give them heart satisfaction will drop off. Interests will come and go – don’t despair that the dream will get lost.
  • Some kids do things in cycles- he pours his heart and mind into an interest. Then just when you think that he’s absolutely dedicated -he jumps into something else! He’s just adding a new aspect to his dream.
  • Exposure to the Arts is always a good thing. A song writer who travels has much more to write about. – a singer who plays sports learns lessons in winning and losing. ( I won’t mention the songs about Mama in jail, the dog dying, the truck wrecked by a wild woman, etc..)
  • Once in a while a person takes the slow and steady way of falling in love with a dream; gaining knowledge and skills along the way and creating their dream. If you have one of these dreamers, gently be there to help with the ups and downs that come with the journey.

Dr. James Dobson ( Focus on the Family) once had a program on what happened to the things we wanted to do when we were children. He noted that most people who have a chance to make a second career choice will go to the thing they loved the most when they were kids. Interesting, isn’t it?

What do you think? Please let me know how you encourage your your child’s dream. Or, how you were encouraged to follow yours?








How Family Encourages a Love For Music

When you think of Country Music, what’s the first image that comes to your mind?

Musicians, right ? There are so many incredible people in the music industry who make that sound that we love. Here is a story of one of my favorites!

“Be Original! You are worth more than a copy.  Be Yourself!” 

Country Music Mama Spotlight.

Today I’d like to introduce you to Country Music Mama- Tracy Rowsey. She is Kheagun Fleckenstein’s Mom. Kheagun is Eli Mosley’s lead guitarist and great friend. I had the honor of interviewing Tracy by phone for my first Country Music Mama Spotlight. 

Kheagun, an accomplished 24yr. old guitarist, is from the farmland of Indiana and loves the country life and Country Music! He’s also a working artist, an ornamental welder making beautiful gates and fences. The guys in the band call him “the ginger” for his striking red hair and  handsome complexion.

Here’s what his Country Music Mom Tracy had to say-

“When did Kheagun first show a passion for music?”

“Music was part of our home life. His Dad and I were in a band and had music on in our home all the time.”

” How old was Kheagun when he got his first guitar?”

“He was 13years old when he got his first guitar. He immediately started taking guitar lessons and stayed with that teacher for three years until he had learned all that teacher had to teach him. Then he joined a high school heavy metal band. They were really good! They played around Auburn, Indiana. The band entered a Battle of the Bands, for a local radio station, and won Second Place!!!”

Did Kheagun have a special mentor? “

“Yes, it was his Grandfather. He enjoyed music with him and encouraged Kheagun’s musical talent.”

” How did you inspire your son to follow his dream?”

“We wanted our son to follow his unique purpose.

“I put posters up in his room with motivational sayings. One of his favorites said,

“Be Original! You are worth more than a copy.  Be Yourself!” “

Kheagun and Eli

Kheagun fell in love in love with Country Music after his High School graduation.   He started an online conversation with a young guy in Florida who was busy building a Country Music career from scratch, Eli Mosley. Kheagun began considering a move down to Florida to join Eli. One night, after recently moving to Tampa to visit his grandparents, Kheagun stood in line to see a Brad Paisley concert. Standing in front of him in line was Eli. They were texting about seeing Brad’s show- a favorite artist of both guys. Eli turned around and recognized Kheagun from his online photos! That was the beginning of a close friendship and a winning country music sound.

Tracy and Kheagun’s family are so excited about Kheagun’s work in Eli’s band. They come to his concerts when they can and they follow his career on Kheagun’s facebook page. In the near future they hope to move down to Florida where they can take a more active part in the business of the band. Tracy is a professional photographer and marketing specialist.


The Possibility Thinkers Prayer

 When faced with a mountain 

                I will not Quit

          I will keep on striving

    until I climb over

              find a pass through

     tunnel underneath

        or simply stay and turn

           the mountain into a gold mine

               With God’s help!

                                                                                    Dr. Robert Schuller

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